Your current relationship with money
Let’s start by uncovering your current relationship with money before discussing how to change your relationship.
An incredibly useful way to understand your relationship with money is to think of it like a person.
Of course, your money is not a person.
But I promise this is a super useful exercise.
This exercise will help you really uncover your current relationship with money.
The question to ask yourself is: If my money could talk, what would it say about the way I treat it?
- Do you pay attention to it or ignore it?
- Do you talk badly about it?
- Do you say it’s not enough?
- Are you loving towards it?
- Does it feel appreciated?
I recommend taking 10 to 15 minutes to write down your answers to these questions.
Don’t think – just write.
And after you’ve taken time to write your answers, reflect back on your answers.
Are your thoughts and beliefs about money ones of scarcity? Avoidance? Shame? Guilt?
Is this the relationship with money you want to have?
Don’t beat yourself up if your relationship with money is full of stress and scarcity.
You made a huge step forward just by becoming aware.
And what this exercise reveals is opportunities for you to grow.
Creating a new relationship with money
Now, let’s run through a similar exercise.
Consider someone who has a positive relationship with money, how would they talk about their money?
- How would they feel about their money?
- How would they talk about their money?
Take some time to write down your answers to these questions.
When I answer these questions, I find that a person with a positive relationship with money would say…
- My money is always enough
- I appreciate my money
- I love my money and carefully spend it by only purchasing things I need and want
- I spend consciously and intentionally, never wasting or overspending
Now we have come up with the thoughts and beliefs of someone who has a positive relationship with money.
This is where we want to go and the thoughts and beliefs we want to adopt as our own.
But if your current thought is “I never have enough money,” it will be impossible to immediately change your thought to “my money is always enough.”
To move from your current thoughts to the dream thoughts, we have to practice thoughts that will “bridge” the gap.
“Bridge” thoughts are intermediate thoughts that we adopt.
And once we believe one bridge thought, we work on the next one.
And we keep going until we get to your dream thought.
I used to have a lot of money scarcity and would always think “I don’t have enough money.”
Here are the thoughts I used to transition to my abundant money belief.
- I don’t have enough (original thought)
- I have enough for today
- I have enough for this month
- I have enough money
- I always have enough money
Notice how those thoughts ladder up to the belief I wanted to have: “I always have enough money.”
I find that pulling the timeline closer to the present moment is super useful in bridge thoughts, so I recommend you zoom in on the “right now” just as I showed above.
Each morning, practice the bridge thought you are trying to adopt.
You can also remind yourself of your bridge thought when old money beliefs and thoughts pop up.
And then you’ll soon realize that the new thought is second-nature.
That’s when you know it’s time to move up the ladder and start practicing the next bridge thought.
You can keep working up the ladder until you adopt the abundant money thought.
If you take this process seriously, it will have amazing results.
It did for me.
I cannot wait for you to try this work yourself.