Hi all,
Let me tell my story of how I found mindset work and personal development to be life-changing.
I started college in 2010. Like most college students, I naively chose a college major based on which grade school and high school classes I liked the best.
That’s how I became a biochemistry major.
I loved biochemistry, and I was good at it. Mainly, it required a lot of memorization, and I’m good at memorization and good at out-hustling my classmates. I did very well in undergrad.
I only saw two clear paths forward with a biochemistry major – medical school or graduate school (to get a PhD). Considering I get very light headed when I see needles, I chose graduate school. I liked doing research in undergrad, so I figured, this won’t be so bad.
In 2014, I started began a PhD program in Molecular and Cell Biology at one of the best universities in the country. It started off well.
Two years into the program, I really disliked graduate school.
I no longer had a passion for science.
I felt broke.
To top it off, I went through a tough breakup at the end of my third year.
I wanted so desperately to drop out of my PhD. My parents talked me into staying.
I clearly remember my dad saying to me:
If you are not happy now, you won’t be happy when you change your environment
I didn’t believe him. I argued back during that conversation, telling him I would definitely be happy with a different job on the opposite side of the country.
But ultimately, I knew my dad was right.
I needed to take responsibility for my own happiness.
A year later, I found The Life Coach School podcast. On that podcast, Brooke Castillo teaches her model: your thoughts create your feelings, your feelings create your actions, and your actions create your results, and circumstances are neutral.
Therefore, my unhappiness in graduate school was coming entirely from the thoughts in my head, not the circumstance of being in graduate school.
I listened to a few episodes, but the message didn’t sink in. It took another six months before I re-visited the podcast. That’s when the message resonated. I was sick and tired of being unhappy, and I was finally ready to be open to Brooke Castillo’s message.
From that point on, I delved deep into personal development and mindset.
I’m still not perfect at taking responsibility for my own happiness. I still find myself slipping into the spiral of blaming my circumstances for my feelings. But now, I catch myself. And I do the self-coaching to get me out that spiral.
This website is here to serve you on your own journey. To help you commit to personal development. To help you build wealth. To help you have control over your time.
Let’s get going.
Have any questions or comments? Or just want to say hi? You can reach me at emily (at) hermindsetandwealth.com.
