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Emily Lingeman

Stress Coach for Driven Women

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About

Hello! I’m Emily Lingeman.

I used to be a giant ball of stress. (This is actually how I used to describe myself.)

I blamed my stress entirely on my job.

I used to believe that if I could just switch jobs or bosses that my life would be so much better. I would feel so much less stressed.

I spent so much time wishing I could be somewhere. 

I looked for all the new jobs.

I spent so much time learning about the FIRE movement and calculating how soon I could retire.

I desperately wanted to feel less stressed.

And I thought finding a way out was the answer.

But, my friends, the answer to feeling less stressed isn’t in finding a new job or getting a different boss. 

The answer to feeling less stressed is incredibly simple.

It begins within you.

And this is the best news ever. 

Because it means you can change it.

As it turns out, I was the one creating my stress.

Not my job.

Not my boss.

This was hard pill to swallow and a bit of a smack in the face.

Here are the transformations I’ve made:

  • I get stressed less often
  • I went from being a “negative Nancy” at work to bringing positivity to my teams
  • I get better sleep
  • I’ve chilled the f*ck out in general

I still get stressed from time to time. I am still human.

But I’ve come a long way.

And I help my clients get these transformations as well.

I am a Certified Life Coach.

I coach with tools grounded in cognitive behavioral therapy and neuroscience. My coaching works BECAUSE it grounded in science. I understand how the brain works, and I work with my clients to overcome default programming.

Are you ready?

Learn more about working with me

Hang out with me on Instagram

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I help career-driven women have less stress and more confidence.
🎓Certified Life Coach, PhD
✨Sign up for a consult at the link below 👇

Emily Lingeman | Stress Coach
Other people's opinions have more to do with thems Other people's opinions have more to do with themselves than with you.⁠
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It's so simple & true, yet we often forget.⁠
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Take work as an example.⁠
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A boss that is micromanaging has more to do with their own insecurities and lack of confidence than it has to do with your abilities to do your job.⁠
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A boss with a really negative attitude is stressed about their own life, and they'll be negative no matter how well you're doing.⁠
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A boss that puts you down frequently feels insecure about themself and is just trying to make themself feel better.⁠
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Other people's opinions & attitudes have more to do with themselves than you.⁠
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But it's hard to remember that.⁠
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It's hard to not take it personally. It's hard to not make it mean anything about you as a person or your future success in your career.⁠
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I get it. I've been there too.⁠
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In my current full-time job, I have had 6 bosses (one for each project I've been on). And they all have different attitudes and opinions, yet I am the same person. It's easier to see now that it's not about me and it's all about them.⁠
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To detangle your boss' opinion of you from your opinion of yourself, we must separate your self-worth as a human from your success at your job.⁠
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Separating your self-worth from career success is one core component of my 6-month 1:1 coaching program.⁠
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Schedule a consultation at the link in my bio to learn more.⁠
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Our brains are like highways.⁠ ⁠ The more we p Our brains are like highways.⁠
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The more we practice a certain way of thinking, the easier it becomes.⁠
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It's like driving on a high-speed highway.⁠
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It is amazing our brains have become this efficient, but it also something we should watch out for.⁠
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High-achieving women are typically very hard on themselves.⁠
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You may beat yourself up when you don’t reach the high bar you set for yourself.⁠
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You received praise as a kid for doing well in school and in activities, and you began to be hard on yourself when you didn’t reach your expectations.⁠
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And you have probably carried that thought pattern into your career.⁠
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That pattern of thinking is like a high-speed highway in your brain.⁠
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You’ve practiced it so much that it has become completely natural.⁠
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It seems so hard to stop thinking that way.⁠
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In fact, you may not even recognize that it’s something you could stop doing.⁠
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You may even see it as motivating.⁠
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But ultimately, it doesn’t feel great to beat yourself.⁠
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The best response when you don't meet your expectations is to show yourself compassion and love.⁠
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But this probably feels so unnatural.⁠
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It's like driving a car down a bumpy, old, and unmaintained dirt road.⁠
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It’s slow and awkward, and the driving is difficult.⁠
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But as you practice compassion and love for yourself, you are driving down the dirt road more often.⁠
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It then becomes smooth.⁠
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And eventually, this new road becomes like a new high-speed highway.⁠
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And that old high-speed highway (where you used to beat yourself up) begins crumbling.⁠
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This change is possible with practice and coaching.⁠
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Think about how amazing it would feel if your first reaction was to show yourself love rather than beat yourself up.⁠
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That is possible for you.⁠
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Sign up for a consultation at the link in my bio⁠
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We all have two managers.⁠ ⁠ You have your man We all have two managers.⁠
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You have your manager at work and your internal manager.⁠
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Your internal manager is how you talk to yourself.⁠
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It’s that voice inside your head.⁠
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We all have one.⁠
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Sometimes it says you can’t do this. You’re not cut out for your job. You’re not good enough to get that promotion.⁠
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The internal manager offers us self-doubt and criticism.⁠
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It brings to life imposter syndrome.⁠
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It leads you to beat yourself up when you don't meet your own expectations.⁠
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Your work manager would never talk to you like your internal manager.⁠
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If they did, you’d be out of that job so fast.⁠
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You would never put up with that.⁠
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So why are you putting up with your internal manager?⁠
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It’s possible to not listen to that internal manager.⁠
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It’s possible for your internal manager to be less critical.⁠
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I became much less stressed when I learned how to not listen to that internal manager.⁠
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I know this possible for you too.⁠
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You'll feel much less stressed.⁠
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You'll feel much better.⁠
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Sign up for a consultation at the link in my bio, and we'll discuss your plan for handling your internal manager.⁠
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