Today, we’ll learn about 3 must-have tools in your personal development toolbox that will help you create the life you want.
These tools come from my life coach, Natalie Bacon. They’ve made such a positive difference in my life, that I have to share them with you.
Tool 1: Visualize your future self (every day)
Every morning (and I recommend first thing in the morning), visualize your future self.
Close your eyes so you’re free from distractions.
You can visualize yourself five years from now or one year from now. I recommend mixing it up between these two different time frames. (Some days, visualize yourself five years from now, and other days, visualize yourself one year from now.)
Each day, visualize different aspects of your life. Ask yourself:
- What kind of job do you have? How many hours do you work at this job? How do you feel about your job?
- Where do you live? (In what city? In what kind of house or apartment?)
- Are you married? Do you have kids?
- What’s your daily routine look like?
- What are your hobbies?
- Do you work out? How often?
At first, this exercise will feel so awkward. (At least it did for me.)
It felt more like a “daydream” at first, full of wishful thinking, rather than it being “real.”
The more I’ve practiced visualizing my future self, the more “real” it becomes. And now I actually believe this is what my future will look like.
And the results have already been amazing.
Since I know what my future looks like, I make decisions in my daily life today to create that future.
I’ve changed how I’m saving money so I can make this future life a reality.
It has provided me with clarity on when I’m likely to buy a house and when I need to start saving for a downpayment.
It has removed my indecision about where I want to live in the next year since I now know where I should live in order to create my future life.
Try this exercise for yourself. It just takes a few minutes each day, and with every day you practice this exercise, the visualization you have of your future self will become clearer and clearer. And from there, you can take action in your life today to make that future a reality.
Tool 2: Write a letter from your future self to your current self
After visualizing your future self, you can write a letter from your future self to your current self.
Sounds a bit weird, I know. But it totally works!
You’ll uncover the wisdom you have inside you.
Write the letter about two things:
- The life you just visualized
- Advice your future self has for your current self to create that future life
First, describe in detail the life you just visualized in your head. Writing it down is another way to reinforce the vision you have for your future and will go a long way in making it a reality.
And then, take the opportunity to advise your current self on what steps you should take to make that future a reality.
Should you look for a new job?
Should you move?
Should you get back into the dating game?
As it turns out, you have all the information inside of you about how to create the life you want. This letter is a tool to lay that out in front of you.
Tool 3: Create a list of what is your future self thinking and feeling
Now that you’ve visualized your future self and wrote a letter from your future self to your current self, it’s time to ask what is your future self thinking and feeling?
Say, for example, your future self weighs 10 pounds less than your current self. What does the future version of yourself think and feel about food?
She probably eats healthier than you do today, so she may think thoughts like these:
- “I love eating vegetables”
- “I don’t eat dessert often since it doesn’t serve my body.”
- “Food is easy”
And when she sees a plate of desserts at a work event, she likely doesn’t feel anything. She doesn’t feel tempted to eat the desserts. She doesn’t give in to her urges to eat the dessert since she’d rather keep off the weight she lost.
Let’s take another example. Say your future self wants to grow your side-hustle into a full-time job. What does your future self (who runs the business full time) think and feel?
Here are some examples:
- She’s confident in the product / service she provides to her customers
- She loves her business
- She loves her customers / clients and loves solving their problems
So by now, you may be asking why is it useful to create a list of thoughts and feelings that your future self will have.
Here’s why: It shows you the thoughts and feelings that you should be practicing right now.
These are thoughts and feelings you can say to yourself a few times each day, and you’ll start adopting these ideas.
Through this process, you are becoming your future self. You are moving from where you are now closer to the person you want to be. Along the way, this will produce the actions and results (like losing weight or growing the business) you want.
Together, these tools will be life-changing. So I challenge you to try them out for yourself.